Thursday, January 29, 2009
Have you ever noticed the sounds people make when they are eating?Yes I am quite sure you have unless you are deaf that you have been at some time in your life irratated by the sound of someone smucking and smacking their food while eating.Do those people KNOW they are making unpleasant noises?And if they do know,why do they feel compelled to invade other people's ear space? Slurping on any type of fruit and the snik snik of gum being chawed are among the sounds I find extremely irratating. Men are worse than women in the food department yet I do know several women , one in particular who smucks,sucksand slurps her food. MY GOD! she has to know she is doing this! Does she think this is sexy?Although this same woman thinks bleaching her her to a strawlike crisp is sexy so I guess we will leave it at that. Women on the other hand have a tendency to be the gum chawers. And so dear friends my dilemma is as such.... When irratated by a chronic food smacker does one tell the person that this bothers them and asks them to stop,maybe the person does not realize they are doing this. On the other hand if you do tell them and they KNOW they have been doing this all along,will this give them more ammo to irritate you further?It is a very hard call. And why is it that one gets irritated by these noises in the first place? A bird could chirp all day or a tap could drip,drip,drip, but the sound of another human eating noisily drives me absolutely insane! Maybe it is because these people do have control over the noises they make. When I was a kid my father would make the ghastliest noises while eating and my mom would say disdainfully"Must you eat like that?" Though now that my dad is gone I would give anything to hear him heartily smacking his food.........This is the thought coming from my small brain today.
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Well, perhaps its not so much the sounds as the person or persons making them. You have already implied that a certain bleached cougar.... er....woman irritates you anyway so of course her eating noises are worse because of your ...shall we say dislike.. for her. I think everyone makes noises.... even.... dare I say it.... even a certain dark-haired internet addict. Unbelieveable as it might sound, I too slurp and make other noises. I figure if it bothers people, they shouldn't eat with me. I would say since many people would tell a loved one that they are making irritating noises... why can't they be as discourteous to a mere friend (using the term loosely)Overall, I find that if you are being bugged by anything a person does, you might want to ask if it is worth the aggravation to grin and bear it. You say that noises your Dad made annoyed you, but you would gladly listen to them now if you were able, then they didn't irritate you as much as you think.
ReplyDeleteFrom an unrepentant and enthusiastic food slurper and smacker.
Dear Holly
ReplyDeleteThe best way to deal with people who make annoying sounds when they eat is to smack them upside the head repeatedly. Sooner or later they will stop.
I however DO NOT make annoying sounds while I eat. So please do not use my advice on me, because I know that you may want to use any excuse that you can find to smack me.
Dear Raven..thank you for your help with my dilemma. I work in a evironment that at breaktime, I am inundated with the sound of other co-workers smacking their food ..that is what inspired my to write a post on the annoying matter. One guy in particular I'll call him "Rocky" is always eating fruit and I daresay the noises he makes sets my teeth on edge. He is a good friend but his M.O. is to be an irratant to people but I am well aware of this trait he has....Yes Raven I guess the only thing one must do here is grin and bear or take it step further and write a post about it....Holly
ReplyDeleteOMG Holly I thought it was just me!
ReplyDeleteI thought I was some kind of control freak who would even go so far as try to control other peoples chewing!
I have long been a sufferer of the affliction you describe. The people I love annoy me just as much as the people who I don't know or find irritating for other reasons...
I guess for me it like the smoking issue. My being a non smoker does not impact peoples lives in a bad way, so why when I walk out of a building, or through a park or mall am I forced to be a smoker if I don't hold my breath?
We all make some form of noise when we eat, but there are noises which are unavoidable, and noises which are just downright offensive!
If the noise of a person puts another off their food, then there is a problem!!!!
So, my beautiful, refined friend, I shall eat with you anytime and we shall judge the other peasants in the restaurant together!
Dear Sonja...It is good to know that I am not the only one that is irrated by the sound of people eating. Nobody's perfect, I myself are far from it. One thing I do strive to do is to not be rude to people. For instance when i am on an airplane I keep my elbows close so the person sitting beside me has arm room. I don't fart where others are near..yes the accidental ones my slip out but I do my best.I would rather smile at people than frown. I am not as refined as you think but I do try to have manners...to say please and thankyou..to hold the door open for strangers..I often let people go ahead of me in the checkout line...things like that. I am a firm believer that a little courtesy goes along way and a smile goes even further. My motto has always been "You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar".Many people don't realize this and go through life being demanding bitches or ruthless pricks and then wonder why people don't like them or won't help them in a time of need...Thanks for taking the time to read my blog Sonja...I know that we just became friends through the school of magic . I know there is trouble in your life right now so please take care and if you would like to talk to someone I am here.....Holly
ReplyDeleteThere is an old saying that goes something like "when someone is doing something that you find extremely annoying, ask yourself what it is you don't like about yourself, that you are envious of them for, and your irritation of their actions will lessen". Just a thought
ReplyDeleteNorm
eating noises irritate me too. My mom always gave us shit at the table so it kind of sunk in.
ReplyDeleteI have started my girls right in that department. (when they eat) they are good at keeping their mouths closed. I'm not saying we are perfect at the table (FAR from it) but if one thing bothers me at the table, it's open mouth chewing. My daughter even gives me shit if I slurp my soup. So I don't eat soup.
Dear Norm..Yes I have asked myself why this irratates me so much...I do not really envy anyone I mostly try to turn what is perceived as envy or jealousy and turn it into admiration of that person. If there is something I lack within myself I try to aspire to build or change so those qualities...Sometimes a hard thing to do.and very often I don't take critisism well I am aware of this and being aware is the first step toward fixing the problem.MY lifes mission is to advance myself as a person and learn all my life's lessons and hopefully help others get through theirs..that is why I have become a palmist. Thanks for your thought..holly
ReplyDeleteWhy does a person have to ask themselves anything when life's little annoyances get to them? I have never heard the old saying that Norm mentioned but here is one for you that is couched in less introspective bullcrap... "What annoyances are more painful than those of which we cannot complain?" Marquis de Custine
ReplyDeleteAnd let us not forget " The flower which is single, need not envy the thorns which are numerous".
Yes and the flower is to be admired and treasured and the thorns are to be avoided!
ReplyDeleteI also want to make a note that ever since Raven came on the scene.."T" has left..Has "T"'s computer broke down? has "T"gone on vacation? I miss "T"'s scathing remarks...where are you "T"?
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